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Afraid to commit to open-ended travel? SO ARE WE!

 

Almost 4 months after we had “the talk” about abandoning the “American Dream” (or Canadian dream since we are north of the 49th parallel), we are still in the same place. Ready to jump but too afraid to actually step off the cliff. The cliff seems to get taller and taller every time we talk about it! There seems to be more and more fears the more research we do!

 

Well why am I writing a travel blog and especially this piece if we are not actually traveling? Will anyone ever be interested in reading what I have to say about the places we have visited or the places we plan to visit? Will my efforts to piece together a journey of discovery for our family, as we travel the world (if we travel the world) get any interest like the way I read other blogs and aspire to be those families?

 

There is so many doubts in my head, but because I feel this way I KNOW there must be others who feel the same way! Others who read and search and desperately desire to jump off that cliff but find so many hands pulling them back and very few, or maybe even only one hand holding steadfast to yours as you lean forward.

 

A few things we do know and agree on as a family:

We want to travel!

We want to see the world!

We are tired of the rat-race life and living to work everyday! It should be the opposite!

BUT … We are too afraid to leave what is “safe”!

We have a mortgage, jobs, and pensions to worry about!

Is it safe?

What do we do when we come back?

How do we make money abroad?

How do we rebuild if we give up this life we have built for ourselves?

What will all of our friends and family think?

How do other people actually take the plunge and do it?

How do you resume normal life once you are done travelling?

Well I am going to say I don’t have the answers to all of these questions. I don’t think many people do! But I know there are MANY people just like my family who actually ARE travelling and living their dream! I read their blogs every day!

But then why am I afraid to take that leap, when I am inspired by so many others who have already done it?

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The doubts in my head keep telling my I’m crazy. I have a good life; I have a life that most envy. We are not rich, but we get by, barely. If we can hold out for one more year our oldest will be in public school. Then three more years and both kids will be in school. We make decent money. We would have a lot more money without a $2000+ daycare bill every month!

We could take family vacations with the extra money!

Couldn’t we?

We could finally get ahead then and buy the house and property of our dreams!

Couldn’t we?

Wicker Paradise Photo Archive: Superbowl Sunday Inspiration Quote. shared via http://blog.wickerparadise.com

I know I’m not the only person who is constantly conflicted with these thoughts! And believe me, I am NOT a worrier. I am a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants type of person. If I want it, I find out how to get it! I have the phrase “alis volat propriis” tattooed on my forearm. It means “she flies with her own wings.”

But just because she flies, doesn’t mean she is terrified of making the “wrong” choice!

What scares you about the travel lifestyle? If you are already travelling, how did you have the courage to go over the cliff?

We all need a bit of a push, or maybe just a hand to hold! I would love it if you would follow my family as we find hands to hold on to, and one day, take that jump into the blue water below, to a life of travel and dreams and togetherness. To Carpe Diem OUR Way!

Thanks for reading! In order to help our family I would love it if you would pin, share, tweet or whatever you do!

Lindsay is the founder and editor of Carpe Diem OUR Way. She left her career in Canada to share her love of travel with her two young boys. She is passionate about sharing adventure travel activities for families and to encourage others to explore the world. She resides in the suburbs of Vancouver when not jet setting abroad.

28 thoughts on “Afraid to commit to open-ended travel? SO ARE WE!

  1. Toni | 2 Aussie Travellers

    Long term travel sounds wonderful, I’m sure it is wonderful but you clearly have other concerns and competing priorities when you honestly ask yourself where you want to be tomorrow, in 3 years or in 10 years. The decision you make impacts not only you but your children too so of course you want to be sure before you take that leap. Be gentle on yourselves, maybe if you’ve delayed it’s because it’s not quite the right time today. Make the decision that is best for you, in the same way you don’t want others to hold you back you don’t want to be pushed either. Good luck in finding the answer and timing that’s right for you all.

  2. Meg Jerrard

    I’m so glad you wrote this post, because it’s actually comforting knowing that we’re all thinking the exact same things! I promise you’re not alone – even the most experienced of travelers face challenges when changing up their travel style or facing down the barrel of a lifestyle change. I’ve always said the most difficult part of committing to a lifestyle of full time travel is deciding to overcome your fears and do it. Starting is always the most difficult part!

    Just rememebr that everyone is afraid, it’s facing those fears which defines true courage 🙂 Happy travels!

  3. Jennifer

    Much luck in making your decision. We’ve been traveling full-time for almost 2 years now and it’s been wonderful for us. That said, we had already owned a home, don’t have kids, and were able to find a way to turn my husband’s full-time job into a consulting business. You really have to evaluate your list and find ways to get comfortable enough that you’ve minimized the risks that keep you from jumping. If you want it badly enough, you will find a way…..

  4. Mary

    I think most people feel those fears before making any huge change like this. Safe is a really a silly word. I mean we are never truly safe, its a crazy world. Nothing is guaranteed in life. What you are afraid to leave is your comfort zone. It may be scary but take my word for it…JUMP ANYWAY!! I can’t wait to follow your adventures.

  5. Betsy Wuebker | PassingThru

    I’m someone who has taken the plunge into full nomad gradually in a series of steps. We’ve addressed many of the concerns that you admit are holding you back right now over the years on our blog, in many different posts. What it really boils down to is this: even though you have a good life, an enviable life that others might wish for, on some level it isn’t working for you. That’s where the restlessness and desire comes from. So you have a simple choice. Make a change or don’t. Either way, you need to reach a place of being okay and honest with yourself with whatever the choice turns out to be.

    Choice is definitely about risk (which is really fear of loss). But fear is temporary and regret can be forever. As well, there are consequences to indecision. We’ve written about indecision and how it’s not healthy, too. Sometimes we tell ourselves we’re fact-finding, but it’s really procrastination. At some point, you’ve got to stop with the fact-finding and research and either do or not do. (Yoda-like!) I

    f you truly believe that you need security, you may want to ask yourself what is secure about the lifestyle you have right now. If one or both of you lost your jobs (presumably you both work, as you mentioned daycare expenses), could you sustain your life as it is now? My guess is probably not. We interpreted that as actually being less secure in our own lives, as our fate was in the hands of those we worked for, and our financial obligations trapped us into having to work in a vicious circle. We dubbed it the “lifestyle treadmill.” I could go on and on, but you get the picture.

    Your children are young right now and adaptable. They need love and happy parents more than they need stuff. And no matter what you decide, there will always be naysayers. Sometimes people have negative reactions to unconventional decisions others make because it causes them to compare, or re-examine their assessment of you and the place they’ve put you. This can make them very uncomfortable and they’ll resist doing it. It really has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them.

    So, I applaud you for being honest in this post, and I encourage you to consider an unconventional move if it intrigues you and your husband. What’s the worst that could happen? You could “fail” and return to a similar life, which already you know how to “do.” You could learn that you really prefer a more conventional lifestyle and confine your wanderlust to traditional vacationing. Very little risk then, other than a few I told you so’s, right? We can all put those in their proper place. But what if you tried it out and were so happy that you wished you’d done it sooner? Only in doing it will you find out. There are ways you can ease into a life of travel gradually. Perhaps that’s the happy middle ground you seek. 🙂

  6. Yvonne

    I slow travel so I guess that is kind of like open ended travel. But I always need to add experience so when I slow travel, I move somewhere and I work there to gain experience and money. The idea of just traveling is not appealing to me because eventually I want to settle down somewhere I know that many companies would not really see “long term travel” as an acceptable job position! Haha

    1. Lindsay Post author

      thanks for your comment Yvonne! and i agree … its not an ideal resume point but some companies value life experience quite highly! good luck as your travels continue!

  7. RaW | Ramble and Wander

    While almost everybody says that they’d love to quit their job to travel, long term travel is definitely not for everyone. I know it’s not for me even though I quit my job 4 years ago to travel. I still am not working today but I still travel frequently whilst at the same time adjusting my lifestyle. I took the plunge because I didn’t have much commitment, unlike you. Maybe rather than taking a plunge, you (& family) should take it slow and work on your smaller targets so that the transition is not so drastic and/or overwhelming. Sometimes when we think too much about the bigger things, we forget that it’s the smaller things that help us move forward towards those bigger targets. In any case, I wish you & family all the best! 🙂

  8. Lesley

    We’re in the process of buying a house so this has come up more than a handful of times. I travel to a new country at least once a month. It would save a lot of return flights if we just made it long term.

  9. Will

    Don’t be reckless…but if you have a burning desire to leave and travel the world, then do it … or you will regret it forever/

  10. Tanj from A Travelogue

    I think we wont like that. We found a way to have work-life balance by being expats. We love it! We get to immerse in a country’s culture and at the same work and have the money to see more of the world.

  11. Michele TravelwithMrsT

    Wow, what a great post and comment thread! I think each situation is unique. Since I began blogging a few months ago, I’ve also started following many bloggers, and am amazed at the adventures I read about. Though I’m currently living temporarily in the Netherlands, my home is in the US, and I’m not sure if I could travel full time. My husband and I talk about it, especially now that we’re fitting in so many side trips to places in Europe!

  12. Amanda Zeisset

    Great post honest post about what every longterm (or potentially longterm) traveler feels at least once.

    I agree with Betsy, small steps are the key. Keep making one little step in the direction of your dreams until it becomes natural.

    As far as your fear if anyone will ever be interested in your writing, just keep at it. It takes years to develop your voice as a writer and find how to reach your readers. The biggest revelation I had was to be useful. It’s okay to add personal touches to your writing but make sure that your reader gets something out of it.

    Another great thing I heard was “If your archives don’t make you cringe, you haven’t grown as a writer.” No one comes into writing an is a superstar.

    I hope you leave the Canadian dream behind to pursue your own!

  13. Vicky and Buddy

    I have these same thoughts everyday! In the last few months I’ve really tried to push myself blogging-wise. I see all these posts about quitting your job and traveling the world that let me know that it is possible. But it definitely isn’t easy, and unless you’re ready to commit 100%and really think of it as a full-time job, it isn’t for everyone. I also have a good, stable job and a nice apartment. But I dream of traveling and I’m constantly going back and forth as to what I should do. All I can say is good luck and hopefully we figure things out soon…

  14. Alicia Haque

    Completely understand where you’re coming from. It’s often hard to envisage a life so different to what you’re living now, but speaking from experience, it’s SO much easier than you think! The hardest part is committing to it – after that, the rest will come naturally. You just need to trust and believe in yourself & what you’re doing.

    The one thing that scared me about the travelling lifestyle was my fear of not progressing in my career. However, after travelling Asia & then moving to Canada (i’m from the UK) I’ve progressed in so many ways and met so many new contacts. The phrase “where there’s a will there’s a way” definitely springs to mind.

    Good luck with your journey, whatever you choose to do! I’ll definitely keep up with your blog to see how things plan out 🙂

  15. Michael Boyink

    Hey – bounced into your site from Instagram. We’re an RVing family from the US – and totally get the uncertaintly thing.

    We recently were asked if we had any regrets, and the answer involved dealing with fear:

    http://ditchingsuburbia.com/blog/any-regrets-about-selling

    And this one might help too – some of the fears being more RV or Boat specific but with some examples of breakdowns and what happened to the families when those breakdowns happened:

    http://ditchingsuburbia.com/blog/broken-down-run-aground-fear

    For me personally – one fear caused me to overcome another. My son turned 13, and suddenly I had this vision of the kids being grown up and gone and we had missed the chance to do anything…adventurous..or even noteworthy…as a family. That become a bigger fear than what might happen to us once we left.

  16. Ruth - Exploramum

    Great article – it does get easier the longer you travel – taking the plunge is the hardest bit and you seem to have a brilliant blog – well done and keep going!

  17. Laura Lynch

    I don’t personally think you have to be traveling full time to become an authority or an honest and trustworthy source for travel information. Your readers probably don’t all want to travel that way either, so they’re likely looking for ways to make occasional travel fit into their current, busy lifestyle. That you don’t travel full time doesn’t at affect my opinion or your travel content.

  18. Ferna

    This really made sense and I’m glad I’m reading a blog like this from you that I simply can relate to, especially on my side living in a 3rd world country with limited passport free visa. I somehow slowly embracing this kind of fear as it also diminished the scary thoughts slowly. This article you wrote opens my mind. Thank you for sharing

    1. Lindsay Post author

      Ferna, im so glad it could help ease your fears, even just a little bit! I find personally the more i read from others, the better i feel as well!

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